Forgiveness Is For You

It appeals to our innate ability to hold on tightly to disappointment, resentment, bitterness, and anger, which are all the roots of unforgiveness when dealing with soul-vexing people or circumstances. Instead of dealing with the issue at hand, we unintentionally harbor unforgiveness like a prized possession, deepening psychological stress, pain, and anguish. Consequently, unforgiveness affects our connection with God, people, and robs us of the inclination to prosper. Some things are considered unforgivable, namely infidelity, continuous emotional, physical, or substance abuse, someone taking the life of your loved one, or hurting your children. We all have experienced these hurts to some extent. Then, there are those situations where someone has offended you or outwitted you, making you feel incompetent, stupid, or, as the old folks say, like a plum fool. Now, you are irate at yourself and the offender. This is the plan of the enemy. He is scheming, snarling, and, most of all, works relentlessly to disrupt our connection with God (2 Corinthians 2:11). 

Clinging on to tormenting words or actions consumes you, clouds your ability to think succinctly, and can also have a devastating effect on your mental and physical health. Forgiveness is not easy, but it can be accomplished with the help of God.  I forgave someone I thought I would never forgive. This person harassed and cyberbullied me for nearly a decade. The nature of the offense in itself was devastating, but its extensiveness was even more appalling. Sometimes, I literally thought my life was an original Lifetime movie. However, as I began to walk more align with God's will, I changed, and my reaction changed. I became less offended and hurt words. I commenced praying, asking God to intercede and to stop her, to help me forgive her, and to pray great things over her life, and through His revelation, to realize that her problem was bigger than me. Last year, I called her, and we had a woman-to-woman (heart to heart) conversation. I would have never imagined saying to her, "I forgive you," but I did. Immediately, a feeling of peace washed over me. "Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Forgive everybody" (Maya Angelou, 1992).